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Sibling revelry

Catherine and I tease Basil because he likes to say, “When you see it, you see it.”

Today, I saw it.

At lunch with my newly discovered brother, Chris.

We’d barely sat down when Chris said, “You’ve got to see the resemblance.”

I admitted that while I saw a bit of it around the mouth, I wasn’t so sure.

He wouldn’t be swayed. Pointing to his cheekbones and the shape of his eyes, he said, “When I saw your pictures, I knew right away you were my sister.

“And they,” he said, pointing to our mother, Pat; Basil; Catherine and Chris’ wife, Jill, “are right now noticing how we both use our hands the same way when we talk.”

Moments later, Pat remarked that we’d each raised a single eyebrow at the same time. Mine was the left one, his was the right, but no matter. They were choreographed in unison.

Heady stuff.

It won’t surprise you to know that while I was trying to remain calm and collected on the outside, I was the only person at the table so emotional inside I was unable to finish my lunch.

And later, when we gathered for end-of-lunch photos, I saw what Chris meant.

My kid brother, Chris; and me.

My kid brother, Chris; and me.


About Terri S. Vanech

Wife, mother, communications specialist, Jazzercise instructor and recently reunited adoptee. I'm living out loud -- and trying to make it all work -- in midlife. Having a sense of humor sure helps.


18 thoughts on “Sibling revelry

  1. Ye I see it too:) Congrats on finding him. Thanks for following Mommy Time Out

    Posted by Angela | April 11, 2013, 11:18 am
  2. Congrats Terri!!!!…….in the pics you see the resemblance.

    Posted by Mike Colaluca | April 8, 2013, 11:48 am
  3. Love this! Genetic mirroring rocks! πŸ™‚

    Posted by Rebecca Hawkes | April 8, 2013, 8:34 am
  4. Yes!

    Posted by Rob | April 8, 2013, 7:35 am
  5. sounds like a wonderful day, but i think you need to work on your “about terri” section! nobody will be happier to rewrite it than the “about” person

    see you wednesday.

    Posted by bobdorf | April 7, 2013, 8:59 pm
  6. So much alike! Congratulations! He’s cute! And you are part of a “pack” now…!

    Posted by momshieb | April 7, 2013, 7:51 pm
  7. As soon as I saw your photo posted on FB, I said (out loud), “They look so much alike.” So happy for you!

    Posted by marydtp | April 7, 2013, 7:21 pm
  8. Oh, yeah!! It’s easy to see!!!

    Posted by Karen Waggoner | April 7, 2013, 7:05 pm

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